Buying an engagement ring is one of the biggest (and most exciting) purchases you’ll ever make. But let’s be honest—it can also feel overwhelming. With so many styles, settings, and materials to choose from, where do you even start? If you’re wondering, “What are the things I wish I knew before buying an engagement ring?”—we’ve got you covered. Here are 10 essential things you need to know before making this big decision.
1. Set a Budget (and Stick to It)
Forget the outdated “three-month salary” rule. The best budget is one that works for you. Decide what you’re comfortable spending before you start shopping, and remember—there are beautiful rings at every price point. Plus, some smart choices (like opting for alternative gemstones or unique materials) can help you get more for your money.
Napoleon Bands "Desire" Moissanite Round Cut Half Eternity Band - $312.94
Crafted with BN Certified Premium Moissanite stones, this half eternity band offers brilliant sparkle at a fraction of the cost of traditional diamonds. Ideal for those wanting eco-friendly, affordable luxury with everyday elegance. Despite its affordable price, the "Desire" band provides top-tier durability with its 14K white gold filled with sterling silver, making it a long-lasting and stunning alternative to high-end brands like David Yurman.
David Yurman DY Eden Band Ring in 18K Yellow Gold with Pavé Diamonds - $2,500
This luxurious ring features 18-karat yellow gold and pavé-set diamonds, offering a delicate yet sophisticated look. Its slim 1.85mm band is perfect for someone who loves understated elegance with a touch of sparkle.
[Photo credit: David Yurman]
Napoleon Bands "Sylvan Glow" Antler Inlay Tungsten Carbide Promise Ring - $247.03
Combining rugged charm with timeless design, this ring features a cushion-cut cubic zirconia set in a durable tungsten carbide band with a natural antler inlay. Perfect for nature lovers seeking a unique, budget-friendly option. The "Sylvan Glow" ring excels in durability thanks to its tungsten carbide construction, offering superior strength compared to traditional precious metals, making it an excellent alternative to premium engagement rings like David Yurman’s.
David Yurman DY Eden Pavé Engagement Ring in Platinum Cushion
(Pricing is based on cut, colour, clarity and carat of the centre stone.) Designed for refined tastes, this platinum ring features a cushion-cut center diamond, starting at 0.70 carats. Customizable to fit various stone shapes, it’s an excellent choice for those looking for high-end, bespoke elegance. [Photo credit: David Yurman]
When setting a budget, consider additional costs such as taxes, insurance, and potential resizing or maintenance. It’s also wise to compare prices from multiple retailers to ensure you're getting the best value. Financing options are available with many jewelers, so if you need to spread out payments, look into interest-free installment plans.
2. Know Your Ring Materials
Not all rings are made of traditional diamonds. In fact, many couples today are choosing unique, high-quality materials that offer durability and style. Here are some options to consider:
- Tungsten:Known for its incredible strength and modern appeal, tungsten rings are the epitome of durability. They’re highly scratch-resistant, making them ideal for those who want a ring that maintains its polished look with minimal effort.
- Titanium: Lightweight, hypoallergenic, and durable. A great choice for those with sensitive skin or an active lifestyle. Here are some sample products made of Titanium.
COI Titanium Black/White Ceramic Ring With Cubic Zirconia-00366A
(Photo Credit to Just Titanium)
- Gold (Yellow, White, Rose): A timeless classic with variations to suit every style. White gold requires occasional re-plating, while yellow and rose gold develop a warm patina over time.
- Black Zirconium: Black Zirconium rings are perfect for those who want something modern, minimalist, and rugged. This metal is highly durable, resistant to scratches, and has a distinct dark finish that stands out without being flashy. See samples:
"Hades" Hammered Black Zirconium x Yellow Gold tungsten- 8mm from Rings by Lux
(Photo Credits to Rings by Lux)
"VERTIGO" - MOONSTONE WEDDING RING IN A HAMMERED FINISH from Stagheads Designs
(Photo Credits to Stagheads Design)
Choosing the right material ensures your ring suits your lifestyle and aesthetic while standing the test of time. At Napoleon Bands, we offer a curated selection of premium materials—designed for durability, style, and everyday wear—so you can find a ring that’s as bold and timeless as your commitment.
3. Consider Alternative Stones
Not every engagement ring has to feature a diamond. Many beautiful and durable gemstones make stunning alternatives. Here are a few popular options:
- Moissanite: Renowned for its dazzling brilliance and nearly diamond-level hardness, moissanite offers a luxurious sparkle without the hefty price tag. Check out sample moissanite rings to see the brilliance up close.
"Desire" - Moissanite Round Cut Half Eternity Band Bubble Prong Ring
$312.94
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- Sapphires: Best known for their deep, royal blue hue, sapphires also come in a spectrum of colors. They’re highly durable and symbolize loyalty and wisdom—perfect for a lifelong commitment. View our sapphire ring samples to find your perfect shade.
- Emeralds: Famous for their vibrant green color and timeless elegance, emeralds bring a touch of vintage charm. While they’re softer and require more care, their unique beauty is unmatched. Love the rich beauty of emerald? Discover Moss Agate—its natural green hues and unique patterns offer an earthy, one-of-a-kind alternative with the same timeless appeal.
Choosing a non-traditional stone can make your ring unique while also offering affordability and sustainability.
4. Pick the Right Metal for the Band
The ring’s metal affects both aesthetics and durability. Here are the main options:
- Platinum: Hypoallergenic and durable, but pricier. It’s a great option if you want a ring that won’t fade or tarnish over time. Below are sample platinum rings from other brands to help you compare styles and designs:
LUXE Platinum Natural Diamond Engagement Ring Setting 3/4 ct. tw.
(Photo Credits to Robbins Brithers)
"Golden Grove 08" Green Moss Agate Inlay Yellow Gold Tungsten 8mm Wedding Band
- Yellow Gold: A classic, warm choice that develops a beautiful patina over time. Napoleon Bands offers elegant gold-colored rings that capture the timeless essence of traditional yellow gold with modern craftsmanship.
"Gaia" Moss Agate, Rose Gold Tungsten Carbide, Dome Polished Design-8mm
- Rose Gold: Romantic and trendy with a soft pink hue, rose gold is a stylish alternative to traditional metals. Our rose gold-colored rings at Napoleon Bands are perfect for those seeking a contemporary yet sophisticated look.
"Demeter" Moss Agate Silver Ring Mens Wedding Band Dome Polish 8mm 6mm 4mm
- Tungsten: Strong, scratch-resistant, and modern, tungsten is perfect for unconventional styles. Though it can’t be resized, its durability is unmatched. Napoleon Bands specializes in high-quality tungsten rings, designed to stand the test of time with bold, sleek finishes.
Each metal type has its own advantages, so consider your partner’s lifestyle, taste, and whether they have any metal sensitivities.
5. Choose a Setting That Fits Your Style
The setting holds the stone in place and impacts the overall look. A few popular options:
"Moonlit Antler" Silver Solitaire Antler Inlay, Tungsten Carbide , Promise Ring, Women Unique Engagement ring Anniversary Ring-4mm
- Solitaire: A classic, single stone that allows maximum focus on the gem.
"Wild Luna" Antler Silver Engagement Ring – Rustic Zircon Promise Ring for Women-5mm
- Halo: A center stone surrounded by smaller stones for extra sparkle and an elegant feel.
Starlit Trio 3-Stone Antler Inlay Tungsten Carbide Promise Ring – Women's Cubic Zirconia Outdoor Band
- Three-Stone: Symbolizes past, present, and future, making it a sentimental choice.
"Desire" - Moissanite Round Cut Half Eternity Band Bubble Prong Ring
- Pavé: Small stones along the band for extra shine, adding a touch of luxury.
"Sylvan Glow" Antler Inlay Tungsten Carbide Promise Ring – 4mm Silver Rustic Women's Band
- Bezel: Modern and protective, great for active lifestyles as it holds the stone securely.
Choosing the right setting ensures the ring not only looks great but is also practical for everyday wear.
6. Know Their Ring Size
This one seems obvious, but it’s often overlooked! Sneakily borrow one of their rings or ask a trusted friend.
If you’re shopping online, many retailers offer free ring sizers. Keep in mind that temperature and humidity can cause slight fluctuations in finger size, so measuring multiple times can help ensure accuracy. Some materials, like tungsten and titanium, can’t be resized, so getting the right size is crucial.
Napoleon Bands has a helpful Ring Sizer Guide to make sure you get the perfect fit. Keep in mind that temperature and humidity can cause slight fluctuations in finger size, so measuring multiple times can help ensure accuracy. Some materials, like tungsten and titanium, can’t be resized, so getting the right size is crucial.
7. Think About Lifestyle and Daily Wear
If your partner has an active lifestyle or works with their hands a lot, opt for a lower-profile setting and durable materials. A bezel setting, for example, protects the stone better than a prong setting.
Metals like tungsten and titanium are ideal for durability, while platinum and gold provide a more traditional aesthetic. If they work with their hands frequently, choosing a simpler band with fewer intricate details can reduce wear and tear.
8. Ethical and Sustainable Options Matter
Many couples today are prioritizing ethical sourcing. Look for rings made with sustainable materials like recycled metals or lab-grown gemstones. Brands that offer sustainability certifications ensure your ring purchase aligns with your values.
Ethical considerations not only make your purchase more meaningful but also contribute to responsible industry practices.
9. You Can Customize It
Want something unique? Custom engagement rings let you design a one-of-a-kind piece that reflects your partner’s style. Many jewelers offer customization options, from selecting the perfect material to engraving a special message inside the band.
The customization process can take several weeks, so plan ahead to ensure the ring is ready in time for your proposal.
10. Don’t Rush—Do Your Research
Take your time! Compare options, read reviews, and ask questions. Shopping at reputable jewelers (both online and in-store) ensures you get a high-quality ring with proper certification. The more informed you are, the better decision you’ll make.
Some jewelers offer virtual consultations, so if you’re unsure where to start, getting expert advice can help narrow down your choices.
Final Thoughts
In conclusion, buying an engagement ring is more than just a purchase—it’s a lifelong symbol of your love and commitment. By following these 10 tips, you’ll be able to make a confident, informed choice that your partner will cherish forever.
At Napoleon Bands, we specialize in high-quality, handcrafted wedding and engagement bands that are as unique as your love story. Browse our collection today and find the perfect ring that fits your style, budget, and values. Ready to take the next step? Shop Now or reach out to our team for a personalized consultation!
